Jen Rabenaldt, CRE, First Presbyterian Church, San Luis Obispo, California
The “Sandwich Generation” is a growing group of adults who find themselves caring for aging parents while also supporting their own children or grandchildren. With people living longer and many young adults remaining at home longer or returning home as “boomerang kids,” more middle-aged adults than ever are navigating this complex balance of responsibilities. Today, nearly one in four adults in the United States is considered part of the Sandwich Generation.
For many, this season of life brings both profound joy and significant strain. The emotional demands alone can be overwhelming: feeling torn between the needs of aging parents and the needs of children, carrying guilt for not being able to do everything, and coping with fatigue that builds over months or years. Financial pressures often add another layer, as caregivers juggle the costs of healthcare, child-rearing, and sometimes delayed retirement. Relational stress can emerge as well: siblings may disagree about caregiving duties, partners may feel stretched, and children may struggle with shifting attention.
Spiritual and personal well-being can also suffer. Many caregivers report having little time for prayer, reflection, or rest. Yet it is precisely in these demanding seasons that grounding practices become most essential. Faith communities, friends, and caregiver support groups can offer a lifeline of encouragement and connection. Even small moments of self-care—sleep, exercise, hobbies, or a quiet pause—help restore resilience.
There is good news: caregivers do not have to walk this road alone. National organizations such as AARP and the Family Caregiver Alliance provide tools and guidance, while local resources—including adult day programs, respite care, support groups, and in-home services—can ease the daily load. Open conversations with family members about expectations and shared responsibilities can also lighten the burden.
Most importantly, the Sandwich Generation deserves compassion, especially from themselves. Caring for others begins with remembering your own worth, your own limits, and your own need for support. You are not alone, and help is within reach.
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This information was first shared at POAMN’s 2025 conference. View the handout from that session for additional resources.
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Jen Rabenaldt serves at the church she grew up in, First Presbyterian in San Luis Obispo, California. She became a commissioned ruling elder in 2023 after years of service as the director of Christian Education. She is commissioned to facilitate Christian Education for all ages with an emphasis on older adult ministry and congregational care. Jen’s personal experience in the Sandwich Generation prompted her to research information and helpful tips for those who are experiencing the same. She also is a member of POAMN’s board.